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Relative connections

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So, a couple of weeks ago, I got a message on the genetic testing site I used to verify my conception via donor sperm. The person contacting me was obviously related to me on my mother’s side due to the listing of surnames in his profile. It actually turned out to be his mother contacting me via his account. Anyway, I’m finding that tracking down exactly how we are connected is fascinating. It looks like my mother’s paternal grandmother was the sister of his father’s paternal grandfather which would make us 3rd cousins. I’m pretty sure that’s correct. My genealogy is a little rusty. We’re still in contact and tracking down all the details. I’m thoroughly enjoying the investigation.

Then, TODAY, I got a message from someone who has done extensive genealogy research and has a LONG list of surnames on his profile. I recognize none of them. This means that he is probably most likely related to me via my donor. I’m not quite sure how I feel about that connection. This is obviously something that I considered could happen, but now that it actually has I’m not feeling the way I thought I might. I had actually thought I might be a little freaked when/if such contact actually did happen, but my curiosity has been peaked, and I responded. We’ll see where things go from here. It’s likely to be a dead-end since he may not even know if anyone in his family has ever been a donor, especially considering how distant our relationship might be, but I would never know unless I responded.

Busy but good

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Little Man turned one at the end of May. Planning his celebration with friends and family was fun. Seeing how much he enjoyed it all (except for the moment he was overwhelmed by the room full of people singing to him) was absolutely fantastic! Over the past few weeks, he has started walking and talking. Watching him gain the confidence to “let go” and just walk is such a joy. He’s so proud of himself (as are his mommies). His first word was “cat” which actually sounds more like “at”. He first said it one morning when we were all hanging out on our bed. One of the cats jumped up to join us, and totally without prompting, he said “AT!” His vocabulary also includes “light”, “hot”, “out”, and “up”. We’re still waiting to hear “Mommy” or “Momma”. 😉 Between his first birthday, summer travels, and some other things going on in our lives, I just haven’t had a lot of time to update. I’ll try to be better in the future.